A free interactive experience built around the NYT 36 questions to fall in love — the questions that sparked a million conversations.
Rooted in Dr. Arthur Aron's 1997 study on interpersonal closeness — the research that launched the viral NYT article.
Available in English, Hebrew, Russian, Spanish, and French — so love has no language barrier.
No sign-up, no account, no payment. Open the site and start the questions together.
Includes a built-in eye contact timer for the final step of Dr. Aron's experiment.
36questionshowtofallin.love is a free, interactive web experience presenting all 36 questions from Dr. Arthur Aron's famous interpersonal closeness study — the questions popularized by the New York Times as the "36 Questions That Lead to Love."
The questions are organized into three sets, progressively deepening in intimacy:
After all 36 questions, the experience concludes with a built-in 4-minute eye contact timer — the final step of Dr. Aron's experiment.
In 1997, psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron and colleagues at Stony Brook University published a study titled "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness." The study found that mutual vulnerability and self-disclosure — achieved through a carefully structured series of questions — could generate meaningful closeness between strangers in as little as 45 minutes.
The questions gained worldwide fame when writer Mandy Len Catron wrote about trying them with a date in a January 2015 New York Times Modern Love column: "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This." The article went viral and has been read by millions of people.
The 36 questions are not a magic trick — they work because they create a space for honest, progressive self-disclosure between two people. Whether you're on a first date or deepening a long-term relationship, the questions create connection.
This website was designed and built by NSR Technologies, a small web development studio. It was created as a passion project to make this transformative experience more accessible, beautiful, and multilingual for couples and curious strangers around the world.
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Try the 36 questions with someone. It takes about 45 minutes and might change everything.
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